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Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers is a parenting and developmental psychology book by Gordon Neufeld, written with physician Gabor Maté. First published in 2004 and later updated, it argues that a major hidden problem in modern childhood is peer orientation, the tendency for children to look primarily to friends rather than parents for values, identity, and behavior. The book is not a general parenting handbook; it is a focused critique of how attachment can be weakened in contemporary family life and how that shift affects emotional security, discipline, and social development. Drawing on attachment-based developmental ideas, the authors explain why children need parental leadership, warmth, and emotional availability more than peer approval. The purpose of the book is both diagnostic and practical: it identifies why many children become increasingly distant, defensive, or conformist, and it suggests ways parents can restore a stronger connection without relying on coercion or harsh control.